You can’t even imagine it, it’s too bad to be true and yet for some people it’s a reality. The man you know as daddy is someone else’s Diabolos.
Thembi how do you know for sure?
Because no man is an island! We all have relatives in this wonderful circle of life. And as much as you’d rather pretend that rapists were manufactured somewhere and aren’t tied to any bloodlines, they are.
My cousin was raped by her step-father when she was 13. She committed suicide after her mom told the whole family she was lying & trying to “destroy her marriage”. My aunt is still married to that man 💔
— Money Mayne (@MonnieMayne) September 28, 2018
Not only are they your family, they are your friends too.
You can judge a lot about a person's character by what they laugh at.
— Fact (@Fact) March 17, 2019
Matthew 12:34 O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
A motivational speaker once said, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth leaks.” You can tell a lot about a person based on the kind of things that they find funny. I do not associate with people who find humor in rapey jokes.
I am a Feminist. I do not think rape is funny; it shouldn't be a subject of any joke. So I'm appalled at what was said, regardless of who said it. Are you implying that Feminists approve of the joke because it was made by a woman?
— #BabesOweHustle (@buhle_matsha) March 18, 2019
But Thembi it’s just jokes.
This was sent to me and I don’t know why the name was blurred out but I just want to show you what kind of men we are actually dealing with . pic.twitter.com/LnG5mBpfVl
— sedinwe (@dolombaaaa) September 2, 2019
If it’s just jokes, why do people lose their marbles when you crack “Yo Momma” jokes. Not so funny now them jokes are they?
“Humour has never been apolitical and if we truly examine our collective sense of humour not only in South Africa but globally, we’ll see that most of what we find funny has to do with the denigration of someone’s humanity.”
— Chloe Ardelia Wofford (@anathijay) September 8, 2019
Jokes are only funny because they are loosely based on the truth. Yes, the chicken does cross the road and we still don’t know why. That’s why some people are upset with Dave Chapelle because he covered up some truth bombs with humour. His comedy special dragged people because there was some truth to it.
If you wanna know how someone truly feels about you, listen to the quips that they make about you in the midst of playful banter. They’ve been dying to tell you how they truly feel about you and joking about it is like the truth but in a funny disguise. Pay attention.
Please don’t support your friends who makes “jokes” about rape
— 🌸 (@fariznashaikh) September 2, 2019
When I see rapey jokes I don’t laugh. I cringe and get upset because some of those “jokes” I’ve seen in real life. When the fuel crisis started, there were jokes online by Zimbabwean men that I followed about how, “The fuel price is too high for me to drive all the way to Ruwa for just a hug.” I shouldn’t even have to explain why this entitlement is disgusting, we covered it in the Followback Mentality blog post.
This already says to me, you equate her body to the price of fuel from Harare to Ruwa. It doesn’t matter if she wants to or not, but because you’ve already driven there she must absolutely have sex with you. Some guy even went as far as having a bumper sticker on his car that says, “No ride is free. Ass or Gas?”
I have heard of men who take you on dates out of town or far from home and threaten to leave you there when you refuse to have sex with him https://t.co/CwG76e9wI0
— Mel (@TheRealMamoyo) September 4, 2019
You think to yourself, oh it’s a funny bumper sticker until you get in and realise nope, that was the full disclosure upfront.
The red flags are everywhere. You need to pay attention. Humans will always reveal who they are, you just need to listen. The rapists and rapist apologists roam freely among us looking as normal as you and me.
A lot of guys don’t believe rape accusations because if they did they’d realise they’ve probably done something similar. And the reality of that is too much to handle.
— Straight outta St Ann (@nicoshae_) April 2, 2019
If you’ve been sleeping with high school girls while in university,
You too my dear are having sex with underage girls and that makes you a rapist!
— Mavis Braga Elias (@MavisBraga) May 1, 2019
I have an aunt, in her 50s going through menopause. She’s recently started dating and has this one guy that she’s been entertaining. A divorcee with grown kids. He kept insisting that they meet at his house, she would not budge. Ultimately, she gets her best friend to accompany her and the guy says, “If you hadn’t brought your best friend, today I was gonna rape you for sure.”
1. How were the women supposed to respond?
2. Where is this rapey joke funny?