Love & Life

Sometimes the Dead Beat Dad Comes Back
Sometimes the Dead Beat Dad Comes Back

So Boity popped off on the #UtatakhoRemix and I was reeling with emotion. I knew I had to write a whole blog post about absent fathers and deadbeat dads. When @Boity said "my Dad was alive but his presence wasn't so my mom was everything that he wasn't.. I could never be the one to ever judge him cause I…

Are the People Around You Ruining Your Life?
Are the People Around You Ruining Your Life?

For the past couple of weeks I’ve been down with a bug. Yesterday it got so bad that I finally went to the clinic with Mr. W. I had severe headaches, joint pains, nausea, diarrhoea, fever, shortness of breath and all sorts of discomfort. During that time, people continues to text me needing something or another and my unread messages…

What It’s Like Living in a Voodoo Home
What It’s Like Living in a Voodoo Home

It’s almost like waking up to find a 5 litre bottle of water and not knowing what it’s for. With the water shedding crisis you wonder is it for drinking? Is it sea water? Is it prayer water that you received from the mountain and you have to bath with it for three sunsets while facing the East and chanting…

Demonising Virginity
Demonising Virginity

There was a renowned pervert living in our neighborhood growing up. He was amazing with the mothers but a nuisance to the young girls. In my house he was always referred to as ‘Perv.’ Everyone was well aware of his interests and kept him out of the house. A girl I grew up with from down the road was sent…

Breakfast Made Me Fat & Sluggish
Breakfast Made Me Fat & Sluggish

I used to watch a soapie called Backstage when I was little. On Backstage, they had a morning radio program called Juice, and the opening billboard would say, “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, with juice.” Do you see what they did there? Growing up, this assumption of breakfast being the most important meal of the day…

The Fathers are Embarrassing Us
The Fathers are Embarrassing Us

Bumped into a story online about how Diddy is dating his son’s ex-girlfriend. I thought what in the Kalanga tradition is this? We sat in the car and listened to Elliot justify that Lori Harvey is a baddie and that a young man can’t handle her. She needs matured males not like her other ex, Trey Songz. Apparently Steve Harvey’s…

Why They’re Sleeping With Your Husband
Why They’re Sleeping With Your Husband

I watched a video of a wife beating up her husband’s mistress. I couldn’t make out some of the Shona but there was a hammer, pair of scissors and the wife’s kid who also joined in on the assault on camera. Goes to show the calibre of woman that does this sorta thing. I went through the comments section below…

I’ll Take Your Man!
I’ll Take Your Man!

This blog post is for my kleptomaniacs who have sticky fingers for other people’s husbands. I’m not judging, I know nothing about your relationships and thus I’m not allowed to have an opinion. What I do have, however, is a playlist of my favourite I’ll take your man songs. 1. Salt n Pepa – I’ll take your man I first…

We Live & Breathe Among Rapists
We Live & Breathe Among Rapists

What if you discovered today that your father is a rapist? You can’t even imagine it, it’s too bad to be true and yet for some people it’s a reality. The man you know as daddy is someone else’s Diabolos. Thembi how do you know for sure? Because no man is an island! We all have relatives in this wonderful…

You’re Not Fooling Anyone
You’re Not Fooling Anyone

You thought the most stubborn thing is a donkey that’s been taken to the river and won’t drink? Clearly you’ve never met a young girl that’s cocksure that she is in love. (I used the word cock on purpose.) Our mothers and sisters have seen it all. The brocode has never changed and it’s passed on from generation to generation.…

I’ll Never Be Quiet! Loud and Proud
I’ll Never Be Quiet! Loud and Proud

I had a boy tell me to shut up not once but twice this week and it had me seething. And here’s why, since I was a child too many people would try to govern what came out of my mouth and it felt like I had a knack for saying the wrong things. I’ve come to accept that my…

He Doesn’t Complete Me
He Doesn’t Complete Me

I’ve been seeing someone for a while now and it hit me, hard, that he doesn’t complete me. I mean how could he complete me, isn’t he the one with the missing rib? I am no one’s saving grace. Ariana Grande is not responsible for Mac Miller’s death. Ariana Grande is not responsible for Pete Davidson’s depression. Women are not…

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