As Cruel As School Children

A couple of weeks back, this woman says to me, “You’re ugly.” And being 25 and way past the awkward teens, you’d think I had a witty comeback and I shrugged it off – I didn’t. I was so hurt. I was embarrassed about being so hurt about it. So, I suppressed it and carried on with life. But it wasn’t gone. I haven’t taken a picture since then.

I really hate my feet. The genes from my maternal side are probably laced with Big Foot’s. I wear a size 7 and as if that’s not enough, I have webbed toes. When I was little uncle Valamasango would call me, “one-centimetre-apart.” It was funny then but nowadays not so much. I never wear open shoes,

My father’s genes decided to kick in with bad teeth. They are white, don’t get it wrong but still they are apart. In high school my teacher did the worst thing, “Turn to your neighbour and pick out their outstanding feature,” and a girl I don’t talk to anymore brought unnecessary attention to my teeth. So I don’t take pictures smiling. I’m so self conscious about it that it ruins a lot of pictures.

Finally, decided to talk to my friends about the ‘ugly’ comment and honestly up to today I don’t understand why it got to me so much but it did. Worse cause she ain’t nothing to write home about herself.

I’ve decided to change my perspective. See the beauty in all my flaws. At the end of the day, I’m grateful that I have feet. Not everybody does. And these toes are like my second hands, I can reach for anything, usually the remote. And the beauty of gapped teeth is that there’s a minimal need for floss. Food doesn’t get caught in my teeth. It never happens.

oh-girls-you-know-what-they-say-demotivational-poster-1246387375You can’t control what people will say about you, but you can control your reaction to it. Yes, it may change you, but it doesn’t have to be an adverse change. And to the girl that called me ugly, “If the benchmark for pretty is you……” #ByeFelicia


7 Responses
  • MoonChild19
    December 5, 2014

    Uplifting story. Thank you for sharing and I love the way you ended it. I agree #ByeFeliciaForever LOL

    • thecomplicatxn
      December 8, 2014

      I’m dying to also reply her with some hurtful words but that’s perpetuating the very thing I am fighting against.

  • loobywemafar0
    December 5, 2014

    Reblogged this on Looby Speaks Out.

  • Sandiswe Bhule
    December 11, 2014

    Oh wow! This is too beautiful! Thank you MIssy!

    • TheComplicatxn
      December 11, 2014

      When I saw you commented, I thought we were doing more reprimanding…lol

      Thanks for your valued advice on everything!

  • makupsy
    December 12, 2014

    This was a good read. I am glad you have embraced everything about yourself. The thing that people fail to realise is that we don’t get to pick and choose the features you get, you are like Lady Gaga says “Born This Way.” Only when you realise that will you not be too hard on yourself. We are all unique in our own ways. Remember that 🙂

    • TheComplicatxn
      December 15, 2014

      Thanks hey. I am over my Achilles’ heel (pun very much intended)

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