What if you went to work one day, and you couldn’t leave for the next 90 days? Those on cruise ships aside, how would that make you feel? You can’t stand them for 8 hours, and now you’re stuck with them day in and day out with no reprieve? I would certainly scream.
So why do we send kids to boarding schools?
Imagine having a hard day and not having the pleasure of going home to your family and just being in your own space? I could faint just thinking about it. Even worse, imagine being bullied and for three months straight, you can’t escape your bully. There’s nowhere to run, there’s nowhere to hide. Trapped in the tin of sardines with people that treat you awful. As part of a 5-piece sibling unit, I looked forward to coming home to my sisters. I was the weird kid at school and didn’t fit in quite right. I felt safest at home with my sisters. I made sense to them.
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Being a teen is tricky. So much is happening all at the same time. Most importantly, you are coming into your identity, and you need a safe space to do that. Like I said, I was the weird kid. If I had to come into myself amidst my schoolmates, I’d be having an identity crisis right now. All the voices and opinions would have gotten to me and made me want to change. It sounds silly, but teens are malleable. Time, time, they are as absorbent as a sponge depending on what’s around them.
I was watching this series about a guy in prison during his trial. And I couldn’t help but draw parallels between prison and boarding schools. I won’t even list the similarities, you can do that yourself and if you were sent to a boarding school you know exactly what I’m talking about.
@savvycg1 #SavvyCG #Boardingschool can be nice for kids who can take good care of themselves,but for those still struggle,they face difficulties.
For whose convenience is the boarding school the best option? As a parent, what are you doing with all that free time after sending your kid away to boarding school? Listen, I have reservations about old age homes, but if your parent sent you to boarding school you’re well within your rights to send them to an old age home when the time comes. At that time, the tables have turned, and it’s what’s convenient for you, right? Cause when they get too needy and their ailments are too demanding, you can just relegate that responsibility to someone else who doesn’t care and will just do their job and go home.
But Thembi, my child, asked to go to boarding
Listen, your child could have been anywhere in the world and you weren’t the first pick? And you don’t see the problem with that? Are you high? I’d never want my child to learn how to live life without me. They are minors. They need parents and guardians not just to sign indemnity forms, pay fees and pacify with a trunk of groceries. They need your presence. They need you. When I was a teen, my best friend moved overseas, and I asked my mum why she wouldn’t relocate. She explained to me how she would have to go first, and we would follow some time later. Long story short, she explained that she didn’t believe in a family split. That didn’t make sense to me until I got older. We need to be together.
Just because boarding schools exist doesn’t mean they are the best thing to happen to us. There is a way that seemeth right to a man, but the ending thereof is death. I don’t care how posh the boarding school is, nothing beats being in the presence of a warm, loving family every evening. I don’t know how many matrons are assigned to each dorm, but do they have the emotional bandwidth to be present with each and every kid every day — and still do their jobs? I mean, if that didn’t matter, why are there stipulations about teacher-to-student ratio in the classroom?
@i_am_sammie58 Boarding school is a bad decision. Please do kot make it!!!!!
Ultimately, you’re a good parent, and you did the best you could with what you have. You’re not a cop out who took the easy way out. You’re a present parent who is there for your child 3 months out of the year when it best suits your schedule and resources.
PRO TIP: Sit down with any adult that went to boarding school so that you can see how right you are sending your kid there.
