Still on Blood and Water, I get how annoying those meddling kids are but they wouldn’t have to meddle if you’d been upfront with them from the very start. I know when I was in my Puleng era it wasn’t voluntarily. My spirit needed me to hear the truth and no one was volunteering it. So I went on a witch hunt and man did I bag myself a witch.
African solutions are family secrets – not to be spoken about
— Peniel (@DrJude9) September 9, 2021
I went on a wild goose chase and being a wild thing myself, I had to become wilder. When I eventually caught the goose, a few of my screws became loose. Honestly, I would have been less mad if I’d been told the truth sooner. The fact that my intelligence was insulted, and I had to do my own research and running around, not to mention the gaslighting… of course I was seething. Not only did you lie, but you weren’t great at it either. If you were worried about me being ashamed of you, I am still.
As we are becoming adults, we’re starting to face really strange things. Stranger than Stranger Things. You keeping the secrets of the bloodline doesn’t protect us from the consequences of the sins of our fathers. Ignorance is not bliss when it comes to things like this. For people who claim to have our best interests you sure don’t act like it. You’re watching us get clapped by the family demons and you’re pretending to be Ray Charles to our struggles. Would it kill you to sit us down and say, “hey, there’s ngozi in the bloodline. As you can see, the men are dropping like flies. Any day now it will be you. So… live everyday like it’s your last. Don’t procrastinate your days are numbered.” How hard is that? It’s simple right? Try it today.
African parents need to let go of the ‘keeping secrets’ mentality… it’s fucked!! Be open and honest with your grown children!!!
— Nique ♍️🐺💜 (@missunique4eva) December 11, 2021
Our predecessors are very heavy on the “to the grave thing.” Not even on their death bed, with their dying breath will they ever choose to unburden themselves. Now you have to attend the funeral to find clues as to what the truth is. One thing people will do at a funeral is gossip. Seated in the lounge, on the floor, within earshot of the bereaved who’s on the mattress, people will gossip and speculate. That’s why Holy Ten’s Banga is such a hit. It’s relatable. We’ve all sipped on piping hot funeral tea. The people who tried it at my father’s funeral are dead now, ain’t God good?
Apparently, our country functions on an african home setup, hanzi hamufukure hapwa panavanhu uye baba havatsiurwi (you don't expose family secrets, good or bad, to outsiders and you can not rebuke and correct the father/ head of the household)
— Rozvi_Prince ®️🤴🏿 (@Uncle_Ty_) March 3, 2023
They say “indlela ibuzwa kwabaphambili” but what happens if the ones who came before don’t want to tell you the way? What if they withhold that information and send you down the yellow brick road? What will you do then? It’s clear to you that something is very wrong but you have more questions than answers.
African parents are good at keeping secrets until it’s time to compare their kids.
— villain in your story (@missviilaan) December 31, 2022
I was watching this YouTube confession video from a man who claims that his dad had romba’d/thwala’d. When his dad passed away, his tavern business also started failing. The man then went on a quest for the truth and discovered the snake that made the tavern profitable. When he was young, his dad had prepared him for this. His dad would drive with him to see the witch doctor. So, he knew where the witch doctor was. He then took up the mantle and continued with the sacrifices that made the tavern successful. Do you know where the bodies are buried in your own family? How much of your struggles are the bloodline’s skeletons in the closet? How far are you willing to learn the truth? What will you do with it once you do?
African people can keep family secrets like no other 💀
— Caleb (@Plaintain_Papi) June 3, 2020
But family secrets are no new thing. I can only speak for African American families. But many of us has family members who were in the dark about their true lineage. Grandmothers who raised grandchildren as their own, second families across town etc. #KerryWashington
— A (@ArmandfrmPhilly) September 25, 2023
