Nobody’s perfect, we know this. It’s a tired alibi for people that don’t want to change or want to make excuses for their shortcomings. Based on this aged adage, women are driven to Alladdin it and find that diamond in the rough.

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So you find a pauper and love him into a prince only for him to leave you in the past. What’s a girl to do?

Stop being selfish for one.

No man is an island. We were put on this earth to be of service to one another. That is the whole basis of ‘Ubuntu.’ I am because you are. We were created to be destiny helpers to one another but some of us have lost the plot. If not you, then who?

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We meet people and feel this instant connection that we mistake for love or lust if you believe in that sorta thing. But these destiny helpers weren’t sent for sex they were sent to guide us along to our destiny. Yes, the movies lied.

In my blog post, How the Followback Mentality is Killing Us, I explained how men don’t do something for nothing and it turns out women do it too. So, if you love a man from rags to riches he is forever indebted to you? He automatically owes you marriage?

What happened to good ol’ fashioned doing the Lord’s work?

2 Corinthians 9:6 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.

2 Corinthians 9:7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.

Brethren, in closing I’d like to say help your fellow brothers in Christ. For your reward will be in heaven. Verily, verily I say unto you, that whatever you make happen for others, God will make happen for you. Let me hear the sisters say “Amen!”

The good book aside, God has already created men so you shouldn’t have to. If you do, however, decide to renovate a fixer-upper do it expecting nothing back. The world owes you nothing.

And the rest of us thank you for all the hard work you’re putting in.