It’s the same when people are on social media, they will join a Facebook group that’s specifically for something and want to spam it with unrelated content. I’ve had people join WhatsApp groups that I admin and want to impose their own two cents over how it should be run. Listen, you have a WhatsApp account, why don’t you create your dream WhatsApp group and do whatever the hell you wanna do there?
I dislike joining a group and seeing content that has nothing to do with what I signed up for. You’re looking for accommodation and find a thousand messages and none of them are about accommodation. I don’t get it.
It’s like I throw my wedding and you show up and decide to turn it into your own birthday party. I don’t think anyone would like that. In the words of Trevor Noah, “You came here for this.”
But now these rebels without a cause will say you’re oppressing them and want to change the status quo to suit their selfish objectives. A person will actively type, “Unrelated to the group but…” So they know what they are doing isn’t right and want to do it anyway. How opportunistic like an infection.
Discipline and self control elude most people. They are unable to control themselves (ukuzibamba) and want to bend things to suit them but that’s not how the world works.
I’ve just switched from a laid back creative agency where we wore gym kits to work on Tuesday to an NGO set up with an HR department, Code of Conduct, Sexual Harassment policy which I agreed to adhere to. A butt my size and thighs to boot are hard to cover up but I have to, you know why? I agreed to the terms and conditions of employment. It’s not comfortable dressing like I’m off to an SDA church service. It’s not cheap either. I must invest in a new wardrobe but I have to do the hard things which I said yes to.
Even from a Christian perspective, Amos 3 verse 3 says, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” The whole Bible is a tale of God’s covenant with us and a covenant is an agreement. Agreement in its entirety avoids a lot of unnecessary conflict. When we grasp this concept we’ll be able to thwart social issues such as rape and sexual harassment. Consent is literally an agreement.
When in Rome, just do what the Romans do.