I was listening to Kae Chap’s Juzi song and I thought, “How many people are holding on to something like that jersey?” A symbol of your pain, heartbreak or failure. Why would you hold on to items that rob you of your peace? Do you just keep them as a whip with which to flog yourself because you are addicted to pain?

I have a pair of gray pants that I loved. The cut was perfect for my body and the material was lush. Problem was, three different times when I wore those pants, my period surprised me. So now, every time I’d see them in my wardrobe, that feeling of dread, shame and what if, would overwhelm me into anxiety. I loved these pants but they had to go.

When you open your wardrobe, what are some of the items causing you discomfort?

Why do you hold on to them?

I’ve always believed that when you break up with a person, you have to return their stuff back to them. I never had the chance to show up at someone’s doorstep with their things because I never let anyone leave their things in my space. It was hard enough adjusting to my husband’s things in our home. Don’t ask why I’m like this, I haven’t a clue.

There’s something about a clear, minimalist space that gives me a clear mind. One thing that Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners show has taught me is that, there is a correlation between messy spaces and mental problems. My dream home is that Kim Kardashian place from her Vogue interview. I’m breaking away from my people’s need for porcelain figurines and doilies. I actually want to see my floors and walls.

If cleanliness is next to Godliness, what’s the opposite of that?

By now you’ve probably noticed that I am superstitious. I watched a show about how you need to keep your spaces clean and tidy because spirits like to play in messy piles of clothing. They also spoke about how your closet and your bathroom should always be neat and tidy because they are hotspot areas that spirits like to thrive in. I’m compelled to concur because the spiritually murky times of my life had me living with piles of clothes knee-high and it felt like I just didn’t have time to sort through them. They weren’t even dirty. Now I neatly sort everything even the dirty laundry is neatly folded in the washing basket.


feng shui (uncountable)

  1. (Chinese mythology) A system of spiritual energies, both good and evil, present in the natural features of landscapes.
  2. (by extension) An ancient Chinese system of geomancy used to design buildings and graves, and to determine the spatial arrangement of things, according to rules about the flow of energy, aimed at achieving harmony with the environment, promoting good fortune and wealth, etc.

There’s a reason why people swear on concepts such as Feng-Shui. I’ve personally never tried it but what I do stake my life on is the Marie Kondo method. I am addicted to cleaning shows and I watched Marie Kondo on Netflix. She took my cleaning to a spiritual level. I had spring cleaned before but the KonMarie Method feels spiritual. You can literally feel the lightness in your spaces right after you clean. You need to try it at least once. Her one rule is, keep only the things that bring you joy.

The clothes you’ve been keeping in the closet hoping one day you’ll fit into them again are doing you more harm than good. You’re chained to a past you can’t get back and when you see them, you’re reminded of how much you are too feeble to stick to a diet or exercise. Now you’re just feeling like a loser and you’re not sure where it’s coming from.

I know someone whose been prophesied to in the church about how they were given something by an ex and that they need to burn that item. The instructions were specific that they shouldn’t give it away or throw that thing away, it must be burned. I would love to understand the reasoning behind it but I have a theory. I won’t share because you will think I’m all hocus-pocus, which I’m not.

People who struggle to let go of things in the physical also struggle to let go of things emotionally and psychologically.

As you were reading this post, some items came to mind and I don’t have to tell you that you have your mission. Your good vibes must be protected at all cost, even if it means getting rid of things which cost a pretty penny. You can’t put a price tag on your happiness. It will be worth it in the long run.

Do you own any items belonging to someone who died? Why do you hold on to them?