Do you have that one hang-up that no matter how hard you work on it or how deep you introspect it just seems like you can’t ever heal or recover from it? Well, guess what, men are humans and they too have such hang-ups and no matter how hard you love him, those skeletons will creep up on them and they will creep on you.

When Common and his wife went public about going for therapy, ladies on the timeline applauded him and we thought the marriage would work but just recently, their love ship docked on the harbor of Splitsville and this goes to show how there are things you can’t love out of him.

JayZ raps a lot about how women would call him ugly in his early days and his wife Beyoncé confirms how this was the ugly truth of JayZ’s life before her. She pleads with JayZ on the Lemonade album and asks him why he insists on continually cheating on her despite her undying love for him. Truth is, there is a personal journey that JayZ has to go on and it needs to come from inside of him.

We was so happy poor but when we got rich
That’s when our signals got crossed, and we got flipped
Rather mine, I don’t know what made me leave that shit
Made me speed that quick, let me see – that’s it
It was the cheese helped them bitches get amnesia quick
I used to cut up they buddies, now they sayin they love me
Used to tell they friends I was ugly and wouldn’t touch me
Then I showed up in that dubbed out buggy
And then they got fussy and they don’t remember that
And I don’t remember you

I saw this one meme about how if you’re an ugly man you need to work hard and make money because that is the only way you’ll be able to get women. Nobody likes being called ugly, that kind of thing leaves a deep hurt and it’s “the soul that needs the surgery.”

Proverbs 26:22 The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly.

Once the man makes the money, it’s like he has a point to prove or a score to settle with all the women who rejected him. It’s like he is making up for lost time when women rejected him in the past. You can love him all you want but when the darkness sets in, he will need to test if he can still “arouse the passions” of another woman. It has nothing to do with you.

The human touch is an addictive source of consolation. It’s like how babies will wail and you can hold them to console them. That’s why we hug, hold hands, pat each other on the back to help each other feel better. Based on this premise, men who haven’t mastered self-love will seek that love from any and every woman who will take him.

Do you know a man who needs to see this post?