You cannot raise your children how your parents raised you. This generation is so different and theirs don’t exist anymore.— THE DRIP DISTRIBUTOR💧🇳🇬 (@thepreco9dayz) December 18, 2019
Your child’s life isn’t a reboot of your life.
When we were in high school, I’d hear a lot of my peers talking about how their career choices had already been picked out by their parents. The top 3 were becoming a doctor, an accountant or a teacher. All these occupations were held in the highest regard when our parents were growing up but nowadays being an Instagram baddie, rapper or social media influencer tops the list.
horrifying pic.twitter.com/5eToEhTqDy— Curt Mills (@CurtMills) February 11, 2020
If you’ve ever seen Toddlers and Tiaras, you’ll understand how borderline toxic it is for your child to be living the parent’s dream. Most of those parents would have never cut it in the pageant industry and now they are living vicariously through their kids. I wonder how many kids genuinely want that life. Imagine having to contend with society’s impossible standards from such a young age. Tragic.
We’re going to be better parents to our kids, we’re going to create healthier parenting methods and we’re going to be there for our kids. We have to change the way that children see parents because fear based parenting is not it.— Ngoako Lerato Mannya (@LeratoMannya) December 25, 2019
How about we parent kids from a blank slate?
why do you guys think you turned out fine but you’re already planning to beat up kids you don’t even have yet? 😭😭😭— Mpumelelo Ngwenya (@mpumz_n) February 12, 2020
make it make sense.
Yeah, how about you take into cognizance that the child you have brought into this world isn’t you Season 2. Get to know them for who they are without trying to parent them from a place of your childhood traumas. This is how generational curses are passed down. Your bitterness, resentment and unhealed scars are the actual generational curses made by your hand.
Somebody said your love language is based off of what what you didn’t receive as a child and I can’t stop thinking about it.— Daddy Bronxiana 🏳️🌈🦋 (@TarotByBronx) September 11, 2019
I remember growing up, my mom was under a lot of self-inflicted pressure to never embarrass me at school. She would be dressed to the 9’s to attend school events. I never understood it. Until she told me how her father would show up to her school in farm gear and mud to boot. Literally, mud on his boots. She’d hide until the carpark had cleared before she could go home. She then assumed I’d be embarrassed of her and that wasn’t the case. I didn’t care about too much. I dress like a homeless person and know zero/zilch about style. I just enjoyed seeing her face in the crowd and hearing her cheer for me. The rest was trivial.
This shit is one of the hardest parts about growing up. But the fact that you’re able to see and pinpoint that it’s a problem and even wonder if you do it too, puts you a step ahead on unlearning the shit https://t.co/L41SII3oP2— Cindy Noir✨ (@Ebony_QT) February 4, 2020
We need to put down the cross we assumed we have to bear and raise our kids brand new. Brand new ideas, brand new heart. Tailor make your child’s dreams based on their interests, talents and strengths. This will go a long way in avoiding conflicts, minimizing resentment and building stronger bonds between parents and children.
"You can't achieve your way out of childhood trauma."— TyreeBP (@TyreeBP) January 11, 2020
— Will Smith