Most of my friendships deteriorated not because we fell out of love but because it felt like I was walking on thin ice and they were pussyfooting on eggshells around me. The situation got so awkward to the point where I didn’t know where we stand. Simply put, I felt unsafe.
I respect an honest nigga, i don't care how bad the truth hurts. Keep it real with me.
— Atarah's Mommy ❤ (@Tash_1310) January 19, 2020
I don’t know if it’s paranoia or intuition, but I can tell when someone isn’t being 100 with me. Especially if we’ve been friends for a while. I can tell when the vibe is not correct. Think about it, have you ever spoken to someone and you could feel that you were being ‘handled?’ The conversation wasn’t genuine and the other party was really picking their words. When this happens a couple of things start running through my mind.
a real friend is supposed to tell you when you fucking up , but y’all always think somebody coming for you .
— vegan mamí (@marie_brownsuga) May 7, 2019
If you can’t come to me, frankly and genuinely then I don’t think we’re meant to be friends. All this tells me is that you think our relationship is fragile and that I am too weak to handle your truth or perception. Either way, it’s not looking good and I’m gonna go until you grow a pair. Don’t hype me up on lies. If I’m wrong, say so. If I’m being a lot, say so.
Don’t deal w/ nobody who cant tell you how they feel bout you openly
— Virgo of the Year (@K_Neww) March 31, 2020
Pay attention to negative feedback and solicit it, particularly from friends. It is helpful when turned into something positive.
— Janet Machuka (@janetmachuka_) January 3, 2020
My cognitive dissonance is aggressive. Any slight discomfort and I’m gone. I guess I don’t wanna be taken for a poes and that’s my defense mechanism. I don’t wanna wake up one day and regret not having paid attention to my gut feeling. I ignored it once before and I was BooBoo the fool.
I grew up “tip toeing” , watching the shift of moods so I won’t offend or bother….
It’s very hard for me to outwardly express pain or hard feelings because of this
— We Ascending (@KW33NSOHI9H) March 9, 2020
I want people around me who can call it like it is. People who make me better. People who trust me with their feelings, ideas and insecurities. I can’t tell you how I’ll react but I promise you I’m gonna stay. What I can’t stand is the lies like Thandeka would say. All those conversations we’re not having, I’m aware of them. All those things you don’t mention to me, I’m not oblivious to them. There are parts of your life that you haven’t trusted me with, in a long time. You’ve given me the watered-down version of you and I’m not gonna sugarcoat it, we’re not okay. I signed up for the good, the bad and the ugly and this ain’t it friend.
You deserve connections that don’t require you to walk on eggshells to get a point across. You deserve connections that don’t require you to sacrifice your peace just to protect feelings or egos. You deserve connections that don’t require you to distance your self, from yourself
— Sandra Ankobiah, Esq (@SandraAnkobiah) August 13, 2019