I’ve been busy since I was a teenager. I always kept busy with something or another. I would burn out annually in the last quarter of the year. It was a circus. I always said to myself, I want to do everything before I get married because when I get married, I just want to be a housewife. I did just that. Checked things off the list. Worked myself to a standstill and then got married. Now, I’m a housewife.

The transition was sudden and jarring but here are a few things that I have taken note of about my new life.

I went offline

I have opted out of social media. Woke up 2 days after my wedding and deactivated everything including WhatsApp. I took it lightly, until Twitter deleted my account and it dawned on me that this is really happening. I wasn’t even hurt by it. The one thing that kept me on social media was my work, without that, I have no need for it. It’s a distraction and a source of endless emotional triggers. I now have more time towards the simple things which bring me joy.

The transition has been trying

I’ve never been a homebody. My mother wasn’t one so I haven’t a clue where I would have learnt it from. I can clean but that’s because I’m low key Obsessive Compulsive about my spaces, order and cleanliness. Cooking is the thorn in my flesh that keeps me from being proud. It’s the one thing I never felt good at and failing at it makes me feel stupid. I definitely have unresolved issues with the stove area. 

Be careful what you wish for 

I didn’t know how much making my own money meant to me. Being the proud person that I am, this has been very uncomfortable for me. I had no idea how much happiness financial freedom gave me. I had an idea but when I started going through it, I realised that I haven’t had to run my purchasing decisions or travel plans past anyone else since I was 19. I’ve never had to sit down with anyone about my money. I just did what I liked with it. It feels like an attack on my independence but I’ve been known to be dramatic.

The pandemic

I’ve always been hermetic by nature so being a housewife with nowhere to go suits me just fine. The lockdown keeps people in their homes instead of visiting me which also brings me joy. I married someone who doesn’t make me wish to be locked down elsewhere so that’s a major win. We’ve become set in our ways and living together was a seamless transition. That’s what happens when you marry someone who is likeminded with you.

More time towards my spirituality 

I had a box full of brand new notebooks and journals which previously I didn’t have time to use. At the beginning of the year, I went on Pinterest and got some journal prompts for Self Development, Mental Health and manifestation. I journal daily. This has made me more self aware and helped me to work through some things. The journaling has made me feel lighter and I am more creative. 

Becoming a housewife was a personal choice. What worked for me, might not work for you because there are too many variables at play. I love knowing that I can wake up and decide to go back to work one day. I am content with knowing that I tried everything I wanted to try before I chose this life. I have no hanging dreams. I am fulfilled. I just want to live a simpler, quiet life.